I have been thinking a lot lately about what type of father I will be. My wife and I found out a few months ago that we were pregnant. Then we found out a few weeks after that that we were having twins. You start thinking about a lot when you realize you are moving from the childless stage to the twins stage.
One thing I have been thinking is about how honored and fortunate I am to have made a strategic move from a corporate position working 60-70 hours a week to a work from home startup company focused on workplace flexibility and changing the way Americans work. I chose the path less taken and I am sure it will make all the difference for my children.
However, there are some typical things that they may miss growing up with a father who works from home, is present more often than not and who has the flexibility to truly balance work, life, family and friends. Here are a few I am worried about:
1. They will never know the feeling of me missing an important game or play or presentation. The lack of that void may be replaced by the embarrassment of me yelling, screaming and cheering them on like they are the greatest human known to mankind.
2. They will never have the feeling of confusion as to who their mom or dad is because they were cared for by nanny’s or day care workers.
3. They will never know the feeling of having to misbehave or rebel just for attention. I am sure they will misbehave and rebel for other reasons but not for needing to fight for attention.
4. They won’t have the privilege of riding in a new convertible sports car that dad buys because of his mid-life crisis brought on by overworking (and probably other factors that I will keep for another article:))
5. Most importantly they will never know the true feeling of the “Cat’s in the Cradle” lyric about a workaholic father and his son: “When you comin’ home dad?” “I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then son, you know we’ll have a good time then.”