Recently, I was having a conversation with a professional woman who asked me why our company was called, “MomSource Network.” I explained to her that it is often the transition to motherhood that creates the biggest challenges for women who are trying to find their ideal work-life blend and that is our goal—To see our members achieve their ideal work-life blend. She politely said, “Do you have concerns that by having ‘mom’ in your company’s name that you may be dumbing yourselves down?”
Is it unprofessional or ‘dumb’ to call yourself a mom?
Motherhood. This is the time when many women feel pressured to choose between “leaning in” and focusing full throttle on the advance of their career or taking a pause and focusing on parenting. I was never a woman who felt that I completely identified with either of those because:
- I realize that I only have one opportunity to share this time with my children. I want to be available to share experiences with them and have the autonomy to create work (and travel) schedule that allows me to be present for their big moments. Therefore, it’s not my life’s goal to be full throttle aggressively climbing the corporate ladder while they are small.
- BUT, I would be a terrible SAHM. I can’t craft, I’m a mediocre cook and I get cranky if I don’t have the opportunity to exercise my professional muscles. The best SAHM are my heroes and I’m in awe of their contributions. That’s how I know that I can’t do it.
I was a woman without a country. Some would say that I am less driven then Sheryl Samburg but I would disagree. I just wanted the autonomy to live my best life personally and professionally. Is that too much to ask?
Apparently so. I continually feel pressured to select the box that best describes me as either a “parent” or a “professional.” Prepare to have your mind blown because I. AM. BOTH.
We built the MomSource Network so that the moms who were experiencing that same struggle could find a community, a network, where their choices were validated, their goals supported and their aspirations admired. We are intentional about not implying that we know the right path for any family but rather are utilizing every resource we have to help them navigate their journey. And yes, we absolutely have people who are not moms. We have great dads, retirees, a few millennials and even a handful of folks who value the resources without having children.
If you think that being a “mom” is dumbing yourself down or that because you prioritize your family that you are no longer professionally valuable, then perhaps we’ll have to agree to disagree.
I’d take the title of “Mom” over “CEO” any day but everyday I’d rather have you understand that I am BOTH.